One of many MOST DIFFICULT ideas with this abuse is the belief that you just didn’t matter in in the least to your Narcissist! There is just one particular person that actually issues to the Narcissist and that’s himself or herself!


From my E book – Greg Zaffuto – Creator – From Attraction to Hurt and Every little thing else in Between with a Narcissist!

You have been solely one of many many stepping stones of their life to extort provide from or take no matter you had that they needed or wanted. They objectify all human beings and principally harvest what they’ll from them. You by no means mattered after they have been with you, it was completely about their wants. Inside this idea comes the various instruments of their arsenal of abuse that they used to maintain you underneath their management so they might obtain provide (principally all of their lies that flowed so simply, their lack of accountability, the betrayal, manipulation, and so on.) They’re predators that hunt down prey.

Regardless that we have been supposedly in a dedicated relationship with them (be it a loving relationship, member of the family, good friend, and so on.,) we have been solely like their favourite ‘service station’ (fuel station) that they have been a daily at when their tank was low. We have been simply that pump that they might pull as much as and we might faithfully replenish their tank after which they might be off and onto many different secret travels with out us ever suspecting something. Consider me that they have been stopping at many different ‘service stations’ as a result of their tank was all the time needing ‘crammed’ identical to a bottomless pit – however we have been their “outdated trustworthy” and dependable. Appears like a simplistic definition with out filling within the blanks concerning the pathological lies, manipulating us into believing we have been in a monogamous and loving relationship, the extortion (they by no means paid for that fuel or anything) and each different instrument of their arsenal to cover the reality of their disordered way of life – our solely function was as a supply of provide to fill all of their main wants!

We believed and went together with this as a result of we actually had NO sense of the fact of the fundamental reality that they have been by no means there for us completely as a result of they conned us into believing they have been. Mainly Narcissist’s are pathological TAKERS. Our life classes by no means included studying that loving one other particular person ought to come together with a ‘WARNING’ that there are darkish folks (abusers/predators) on the market searching for somebody to pull right into a entice by carrying love as a camouflage to achieve our belief after which extort our feelings and every thing that encompasses our actuality to the purpose of destruction.

The reality is a Narcissist may simply be outlined as being thief. Belief me they’re much greater than JUST a thief but it surely encapsulates the reality behind their actions and agendas. They extort issues from folks identical to a con artist does. They painting or fake to be one thing they aren’t even remotely like, after which money in on their manipulative agenda to TAKE every thing they’ll and abuse you as effectively. My level is {that a} thief will break into your house and steal every thing they’ll and they’re off and operating, and you might be left with the loss and devastation of their invasion. A Narcissist would go a step additional and burn your own home down whilst you have been nonetheless in it to ensure there may be completely NO proof that might hyperlink them to it. Every little thing with a Narcissists is a aware act!

Take a second and take a look at your self after your abuse after which examine that to once you began out on this hideous journey with them. If you happen to would critically take stock you’d see so many ranges of loss, to the purpose that this Narcissist has principally disabled you emotionally and PSYCHOLOGICALLY. Write every thing down in a journal and make the comparability. No matter you tried to do in a optimistic method since you believed in them was snatched up by the Narcissist after which they beat you down and made what you probably did mistaken AND you solely tried more durable as a result of there was no sense of their actions however one way or the other you believed that you just did one thing mistaken that wanted fastened.

This turned a misleading and debilitating dance with them, a part of their plan to handle you down an increasing number of to maintain taking what they might and hurt you extra within the course of. These should not simply jerks or customers, these are harmful people that benefit from the chaos and hurt they ship as they extort your life away from you. That Narcissist (identical to the thief) has pillaged and brought every thing they might, or all you needed to give after which principally deserted you for extra however NEVER higher provide — only a new and momentary substitute! They conned you into believing they LOVED you to get you underneath their spell to do all of this! You’re the superb particular person right here and after they depart it’s a miracle for us to do away with them!! Greg

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