The city in Bihar the place I grew up witnessed ladies my age being married proper after Class 10. It was customary for fathers to put aside cash for his or her dowry. However, I had completely different goals. And so my father invested that very same cash into my schooling. Issues weren’t all the time simple as we lived in a kaccha (makeshift)home. My father would restore gasoline stoves to make ends meet. However even when funds had been low he ensured I studied.
Although my household was supportive of my goals, there was one other problem to take care of — relations. Proper from telling my father he was losing cash on my schooling to advising him to marry me off, they tried their finest to discourage him. They even tried forcing me to prepare dinner and be like the opposite ladies they knew, however my dad turned my defend towards these taunts and stress. And that’s how I grew up protected against the surface world.
However whereas in later years I started to understand this facet of life, I hadn’t all the time. At school, I bear in mind writing, “Bauji (father) is a businessman, and Amma (mom) is a tailor.” I used to be scared I’d get bullied if my associates found my father ran a paanthela (betel leaf stall).
I even bear in mind asking him repeatedly why he couldn’t be like the opposite dad and mom, who labored in places of work and wore ironed shirts. His response would all the time be the identical, “Cash isn’t all the pieces in life.”
I didn’t perceive the worth of his phrases, however now I do.
Whereas there was a time I believed I didn’t have as a lot as different kids, right now I realise I all the time had one thing that not one of the others did — a father who believed fiercely in my goals and cared for them and the long run I needed to create. He’s my largest cheerleader and the key of my confidence.
As a PhD graduate from IIT Roorkee, a variety strategist at World Ladies Tourism and a TEDx speaker, I’m grateful to my father for taking me to occasions and letting me host, for educating me the methods to be assured on stage whilst different ladies had been being taught to decrease their voices.
I owe the place I’m to my father who made the perfect lemon tea with all of the lemons that life dealt us. They are saying ‘It takes a village to lift a baby.’ I don’t find out about a village, but it surely positively takes a robust household.
Salute to fathers who guard their daughters and shield them from the fire-spitting dragons of customs, traditions and guidelines that would have in any other case burnt their goals to the bottom.
— As narrated by Prachi Thakur.
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(Edited by Padmashree Pande)