The Narcissist is an EXTREME egotist that denies the reality of their repulsive world to themselves and cleverly hides it by the technique of a false reflection or masks to pathologically idiot or snare us into their grasp. The extra the Narcissist can efficiently ‘seduce’ others and persuade them that they’re beloved the extra the bounty (provide) for the Narcissist. They’re self-created, or higher but, self-de-created, after which FALSELY re-created. What’s re-created isn’t a self, however a mirrored image or ‘FUNCTIONAL” copy of a working picture of a human being to disguise the huge VOID that they’re. It’s a compilation of observations the Narcissist has comprised of watching folks and mirroring what he/she sees again to them – imitating their good qualities, likes/dislikes, every thing, and something to attract us into their internet of deceit. They actually convey dwelling the definition of ‘having one thing in frequent’ with folks. They MORPH into having EVERYTHING in frequent with us!
From my E book – Greg Zaffuto – Creator – From Allure to Hurt and The whole lot else in Between with a Narcissist!
The behavior of treating a human being or an individual as a method to an finish is utilitarian (to fulfill a necessity or fulfill an AGENDA) and essentially an inhumane or a pathological and perverted manipulation of our fundamental human rights. A Narcissist USES all folks to feed their limitless ‘depravity void’ via injustice by his/her regard for others as mere devices/objects to fulfill the Narcissist’s personal gratification. The nearer the affiliation to a Narcissist the extra pathological the Narcissist turns into, and the extra injury performed to the goal/sufferer. Their wants are excess of simply extorting fundamental life and organic wants – it’s their psychological wants that trigger probably the most injury to their goal/sufferer. It’s their want to manage and achieve dominance or energy over different those who injury and destroys them. They’re BASICALLY human with a lot of the identical organic wants (like consuming, respiratory and sexuality) however in relation to psychological features, they’re delusional and appear to have a battle that rages of their head to significantly hurt those who love them as in the event that they detest all folks and have to destroy them one after the other.
The Narcissist is incapable of affection as a result of on the core of his/her narcissism is the full refusal to revere others as people or to actually love and admire others as ‘one other’ self, equal to the all-powerful Narcissist. It’s a fortress or big wall of jealousy that’s weak and wobbly as a result of it at all times comes tumbling down and the Narcissist reveals their true colours with their debasing and dehumanizing mannerisms. What the Narcissist loves is the false self he/she has created and that he/she must see mirrored within the affirmation and provide from others to really feel actual and alive. They’re actors and actresses choosing and selecting their roles and perfecting them to obtain their ‘Emmy’ award or higher but SUPPLY from their viewers. It’s principally a symbiotic relationship the place the Narcissist is extra akin to a TICK feeding on us to outlive, in addition to infecting us with their toxic saliva that may and can disable us. We’re only a supply to feed them, entertain them, and canopy their disfigured and abusive way of life. After being objectified and abused we’re then blamed/shamed and destroyed as if in a ritual method to take away ANY and ALL accountability from the Narcissist as a result of he/she will by no means enable themselves to see the fact of their disordered life and the destruction they trigger – EVER. That is the reality about their superiority or omnipotence – it’s as flimsy as their actuality on this world.
Since a Narcissist is incapable of actually loving one other as a person, the entire Narcissist’s relationships with others are perverted, twisted, and abusive. To make use of an individual is to abuse an individual, and everybody within the Narcissists life, WITHOUT EXCEPTION, is nothing greater than a method of procuring affirmation, adulation, and admiration – a method to an finish, an agenda to safe provide or principally to extort from folks. It is sort of a puppet present with the Narcissist having his/her hand in each puppet directing it’s each transfer.
A narcissist is calculating and refuses ANY connection or obedience of the fundamental necessities of life or the pure ethical legal guidelines as they apply to life and human rights. Obedience to a Narcissist implies that there’s something bigger or higher than what they’re, and they’re going to by no means comply as a result of it will outline them as being weak to permit anybody to really feel important sufficient to be their equal or higher. It’s nearly just like the Narcissist fully relates every thing in life to a measurement – however this measurement begins with them – or because the saying goes, the solar rises and units on a Narcissist as a result of they really feel they’re above all life.
The Narcissist creates the phrases of how THEY measure life – so in the event that they had been a “tape measure or a ruler”, they might decide the dynamics of every measurement OR outline each inch of each foot – and you’ll consider that it will not be constant as it’s SUPPOSED to be. The Narcissist must be ‘that’ which measures (and judges) and NEVER that WHICH IS MEASURED and NEVER judged. Actually they “coin” the phrase “give them an inch and they’re going to take a yard.” Properly that and something they’ll get their tentacles round. No/minimal contact to interrupt the cycle of this abuse. Greg