They may divert from the reality of their conflicted actuality by including slightly bit extra of that attraction, an apology, or no matter they should do to at all times disguise the reality – and the REASON WHY – to maintain us hanging on as a result of they nonetheless want SOMETHING from you! Nothing has actually modified as a result of they’ve been doing this diversion tactic at each degree of the connection in some type or style.
From my Ebook – Greg Zaffuto – Writer – From Attraction to Hurt and All the pieces else in Between with a Narcissist!
Right here is the place the massive sport of manipulation begins and repeats itself OVER and OVER once more to maintain you of their orbit till THEY are executed with YOU. They snuggle proper as much as your feelings and mimic them to create an incredible connection. Add to the equation that they’re charming, and intoxicating – they regularly seduce their prey into their lair with lies and manipulation. They create an ideal reference to us and significantly it is just a narrative and one written exactly for us. It’s a calculated transfer on the Narcissist’s half to determine precisely the way to discover a place in our thoughts AND coronary heart by their excessive manipulation. They’re fairly good at it as a result of they’ve fooled us or higher but conned us to get us to a spot the place they may reap the benefits of our belief AND generosity. To a Narcissist it’s simply one other day with no actual thought or regret to any of their adversarial actions. They need one thing so that they go after it and there are not any guidelines or legal guidelines that they abide by because it considerations any hurt that they trigger to folks. Don’t forget that there’s additionally NO empathy, so that they have no idea the way to care, have an actual friendship, or love – they don’t also have a clue what it appears like, however apparently sufficient they mimic it very properly and can help it so long as we’re viable sources of provide. What an incredible and properly thought out plan a Narcissist develops and makes use of to safe their provide that shouts out PREDATOR!
OK, so here’s what we clinically perceive about Narcissists: They lie, they’re purely vindictive, they give the impression of being down on everyone, they refuse to simply accept any accountability, they’re two-faced backstabbers, they dwell by no guidelines or legal guidelines, they like laughing at folks somewhat than with them, they’re pathological bullies, they’re very childlike, they consider that it doesn’t matter what occurs they may prevail as a result of they see themselves as invincible, they consider that no matter dangerous issues they do they deserve forgiveness, they NEVER do something fallacious of their eyes, they’re fearless and non-caring to the purpose of being insanely unrealistic with their delusional assaults, their lies, and private assaults together with their smear marketing campaign, they’re obsessive about their fantasies about energy, success and wealth, they’re incapable of compromise and have to win, they thrive on evoking reactions and feelings – each destructive or constructive as a result of it provides them a Narcissistic excessive, chaos guidelines their life, they’re out-of-control with their must safe provide from all folks, they cheat on all of their companions, they break down their goal/sufferer’s will by fixed dehumanization and brainwashing to make them really feel like they’re the destructive entity within the relationship and nugatory.
They’re NOT able to bonding, a relationship, and particularly “actual” love as regular folks realize it. They continuously manipulate folks to go in opposition to their very own values willingly, they USE them as puppets, pawns and commodities with constructive and destructive manipulation and schemes. They burn folks out after which transfer onto their subsequent sufferer, moreover they don’t worth folks, don’t miss them or love them as a result of that entails bonding emotionally at varied ranges and the flexibility to bond at ANY degree is totally MISSING – THEY ONLY USE PEOPLE for private achieve and rewards! No/minimal contact at all times. Greg