WHAT they are saying and what they do are ALWAYS two various things – their phrases are ‘blanks’ that they use to control an individual or scenario to THEIR benefit! They really feel utterly entitled to every little thing and something with out ever incomes it, working for it, asking for it, or exhibiting ANY appreciation for something – it’s THEIRS to take and pillage! Narcissists view the world as their playground to take no matter they need and by no means give again – it’s ALWAYS and ONLY about them and the deception and destruction they inflict within the course of.
From my Guide: Greg Zaffuto – Writer – From Attraction to Hurt and The whole lot Else in Between with a Narcissist
What defines a Narcissist? ANYTHING they need that they will create or make as much as obtain one other agenda or higher but con job. They view or higher but PORTRAY themselves as all-powerful, moralistic, non secular in addition to many different issues that they stamp onto their worldly resume – none of which have any actual connection to who and what they’re – abusive and damaging predators that need one thing from EVERY particular person they encounter, and they’ll use no matter they will to CHARM it out of them AND then attempt to destroy the particular person they abused. There is no such thing as a marriage vow, bond, or connection to like that prohibits a Narcissist from doing precisely what they need as a result of there aren’t any penalties they really feel internally and actually there’s NO RELATIONSHIP with them.
It’s ABSOLUTELY superb how a Narcissist can cowl their tracks to cover what can solely be described as their perverse, poisonous, and out-of-control life-style. Bear in mind they aren’t doing this simply to be the superb actors that they’re. These are misleading and abusive personalities that want this disguise to extort individuals and life utilizing no matter instrument of abuse they will to attain their agenda – the very best phrase right here is that they’re crafty like a fox – however all the time do not forget that they may try to destroy all their targets/victims to keep away from publicity. That is who they’re, and it really works for them they usually do NOT care who they hurt so long as it advantages THEM!
It’s extremely unlikely that anybody (even these individuals you tried to elucidate Narcissism too) HAVEN’T ever skilled somebody who has Narcissistic Persona Dysfunction. Narcissists are ALWAYS flying underneath the radar with many disguises. They’re probably the most CHARMING charmers, and simply so good to people who find themselves within the place to do one thing for them, or to individuals who simply wouldn’t have any closeness or function of their life to see actuality of who and what they’re. When you get emotionally near a narcissist, THEN AND ONLY THEN do you get to see them drop their fastidiously crafted and charming masks that hides the out-of-control and abusive creature hiding behind it AND that’s after they’ve TOTALLY fooled and conned you.
A Narcissist by no means appears inward in a way to see that they’ve a persona dysfunction, or that their world is constructed on lies and appearances – that’s merely a scientific definition for us to form of perceive them. Moreover, they by no means admit to being fallacious, doing something fallacious, or having wronged or destroying the numerous lives that they do. Nevertheless, the Narcissists HAS wronged others, be it dishonest, mendacity, manipulation, hurting them emotionally or bodily, BUT a Narcissist manages to undertaking blame on and into the targets/victims and everybody round them. Additionally they have their minions and a brand new provide to help them or filter their lies by means of, in addition to disguise behind to keep away from publicity.
In truth, the Narcissist will view him/herself as superior or above the remainder of humanity. Narcissists don’t see themselves because the SELF-SERVING pathological and damaging individual that lives their complete life like a parasite utilizing and benefiting from others, objectifying individuals, after which shifting on as soon as they’ve been emotionally drained and broken an individual. Nor does the Narcissist see how flimsy their skinny veneer of lies, and false credentials are. No as a substitute the Narcissist will undertaking their false picture and describe themselves as a hero of kinds or perhaps a saint so far as it considerations humanity and their function right here on earth BECAUSE it’s their working mechanism in life as a result of in any other case, they’re simply an enormous void! That is a part of their disordered and broken self that allows the Narcissist to reside in full denial of the harm they inflict onto individuals’s lives. There aren’t any written legal guidelines, guidelines, or rules {that a} Narcissist will observe. They’re in COMPLETE denial of their false lives! They’ve completely no notion or care because it considerations proper and fallacious or reality and lies as a result of empathy doesn’t exist of their world and defines their persona dysfunction.
The Narcissist considers him/herself above the norms of goodness and elude or defer that any of their motion’s borderline being outright evil towards others. That’s the double-edged sword that they assault the world with. The reality is that their lives are all about double requirements or what serves them – if it weren’t for double, triple, quadruple, requirements, they’d not have ANY requirements in any respect. A Narcissist will stand tall and preach about morality as if all cheaters ought to burn twice in hell, however as he/she is giving their lecture from the pulpit they’re additionally surveying the room to seek out just a little additional provide to have on the aspect. However the Narcissist isn’t a cheater of their thoughts – they’re DESERVING as a result of they’re particular and above reprise for his or her actions in life.
The actual definition of a Narcissist is that of a creature that’s so preoccupied and targeted on their each want, pleasure and wish that it utterly blinds the Narcissist from actuality and self-blame. The Narcissist re-writes actuality to suit his/her delusions and with each taker AND it’s just like the Narcissist successful the lottery once they discover a new goal to extort and hurt. They relish the chase and kill and love the spoils they’ve stolen from the very those that handled them with kindness, love, and respect! CLARITY is what saves us and strikes us onto restoration. Information, training, help, and NO/Minimal contact! Greg