There are lots of traits that are inherent to those that are of an empathic nature. You possess these traits; for this reason you had been picked by us. These traits are utilized by your emotional considering and corrupted by the narcissist so they’re used towards you.
These traits are regarded, in your world, as laudable traits to have. These traits nevertheless make you susceptible to us. They trigger us to be interested in you within the first occasion and the existence of those traits implies that they’re ripe to to be exploited by us. These traits are good traits to have however due to us they change into polluted, desecrated and exploited.
You can’t lose these traits. They’re as a lot part of you as your pores and skin tone and eye color. They outline who you’re. You might, unusually, attempt to rid your self of them however you can not. It could be like making an attempt to tear out your individual coronary heart and nonetheless dwell. These traits are infused inside you. For essentially the most half you’ll be happy you possess these traits, grateful that they help you and outline you, separate you from being one among us. You must remember nevertheless of what these sins are so what it’s that causes us to dwelling in on you and moreover how it’s that we exploit these sins for our personal profit. With that data it is possible for you to to look to guard the related attribute and guarantee it stays intact and isn’t attacked, shredded or fed upon by us.
The primary of those traits is the empathic sin of honesty. James E Faust mentioned of honesty,
“Honesty is greater than not mendacity. It’s fact telling, fact talking, fact dwelling and fact loving.”
This aptly demonstrates how honesty is on the core of how an empath behaves. You utilise this honesty in every part that you just do. It governs the way you work together with folks, the way you converse to folks and most of all the way you conduct your intimate relationships. I’m not suggesting that this empathic trait makes you a saint; you’ll not be above pocketing the surplus change if the cashier fingers you again an excessive amount of cash or refraining from telling a good friend that the outfit they suppose is great does not likely do them too many favours. Your honesty is tempered with discretion and being circumspect if you establish {that a} lighter contact is required. You perceive when being too trustworthy with one other shouldn’t be applicable. However, honesty is of big significance to you. You regard it as a basic issue of your character to behave with honesty, each by way of these you take care of and particularly in respect of your self. This core of honesty and its repeated utility to your day-after-day outlook in life makes it ripe for exploitation by us.
The exploitation commences on the seduction. Whenever you have interaction with folks, you tend to permit your feelings and traits to be seen by all. You don’t disguise the way in which you’re feeling. You don’t function from behind a masks (not like others it’s possible you’ll know of) nor from behind a curtain. You don’t cloud your dealings and function in a shadowy method however quite you exhibit who you’re from the outset. That is of no consequence when you’re coping with your fellow empaths and even the normals but it surely turns into particularly harmful if you come into our sights. Not solely do we have now a heightened potential to sense the traits which matter to us, you support this as a result of your honesty means that you’ve all of your traits on show. Identical to a proud shopkeeper displaying his wares in a pristine store window, you exhibit (however you don’t flaunt) your inherent traits for the world to see. Because of this your empathic and sophistication traits that are so necessary to us after we goal our victims are out within the open due to your honesty. You’ve gotten an trustworthy default setting. It’s akin to having no privateness settings in your social media in order that whoever takes an curiosity in you’ll be able to see every part about you, every part that you’ve ever posted, the place you reside, the place you’ve got been, your images and so forth. This default setting is necessary to us because it makes our activity of figuring out you a lot simpler. When you’re demonstrating these empathic traits by your honesty, they’re highlighted, outstanding and readily identifiable. Accordingly, if you happen to hold questioning why you all the time appear to draw our form, it’s as a result of your honesty is inflicting you to face out to us.
Your honesty implies that you have interaction with folks with out an agenda, with out suspicion and offering them with the good thing about the doubt. This honesty of method implies that you miss out on these pink flags that are fluttering in the course of the seduction and that you just fail to listen to the blaring klaxons and see the flashing pink lights which sign that one thing is amiss. You use in an trustworthy method and this causes your considering to be framed so that you just anticipate and assume that the individual you’re coping with is trustworthy in direction of you. This honesty takes you into the territory of gullibility. Add to this that we’re in fact not being truthful with you in the way in which we have interaction in the course of the seduction and you’ve got little probability of avoiding what we’re doing; seducing you and doing so successfully.
The inherent honesty which you possess additionally implies that you inform us how you’re feeling and you’ll achieve this early in our interactions with you. Since we’re engaged in love-bombing you on the outset it’s practically not possible to withstand telling us how great it feels and that you’ve fallen in love with us. Your early declarations on this regard are wished and anticipated. Listening to this enables us, together with seeing the related indicators, to know that our seduction is proving profitable and that you’re being embedded. Gaining such data is necessary for us by way of guaranteeing that we have now the extent of gasoline that we wish but in addition by way of permitting us to bind you nearer to us, for example by asking to borrow cash or by shifting in collectively. Your honesty leads to your telling us what you’re considering and feeling, which in flip provides us the inexperienced lights we require.
Your honesty makes you clear. You can’t disguise something from us and most significantly of all, you’re unable to cover your emotions from us. Thus you’ll all the time wrestle to cover your pleasure, your delight, your ecstasy, your ache, your tears, your annoyance and your agony from us. This emotional honesty is key to why we have interaction with you. Because of this the gasoline you present to us is purer that any which could come from one other supply. Sure, the “normals” will present us with gasoline by being completely happy to see us, by praising us or irritated at being messed round by us. Even our personal form will present gasoline to a different member of the brethren by exhibiting jealousy, annoyance or anger, however in each these circumstances there may be an absence of emotional honesty which is prevalent with you as an empath. Your emotional honesty creates a gasoline which is pure, free from toxins, devoid of pollution. It isn’t masked, it has not been shrouded or clouded ultimately, as is the case with normals and most actually with our form.
By being emotionally trustworthy you make sure that your gasoline is the most effective of every kind and naturally for this reason we’re drawn to you, sink our tooth into you and begin to drain you of all that glowing and pure gasoline.
Your honesty makes you a goal to start with, it makes you a neater goal to latch onto and the reward of this pure gasoline means we wish to hold maintain of you and hold returning to you to feed on it.
The matter doesn’t in fact finish there. Your empathic sin of honesty generates additional issues for you as soon as the devaluation commences. We’re dishonest. We’re ordinary liars, practitioners of deceit and function by a skewed lens of fraudulent intent. Once we have interaction in these dishonest practices it mortally offends your innate honesty with the consequence that you just reply by offering but extra gasoline. This offence to your honesty mixed together with your honesty drives you to wish to make us see the lies that we so readily permit to fall from our deceitful mouths, to have us handle our lying and recognise what we do. This solely serves to bind you to us additional.
The honesty you’ve got together with your self additionally means that you’ve a capability to be introspective and the consequence of that is that you just frequently self-flagellate by blaming your self when you’ll find no different reply to our behaviour. The narcissistic perspective and our poisonous logic, that are invariably a thriller to our victims implies that you fail to grasp why we do and say as we do. Your honesty causes you to look inwards and also you blame your self. This fulfils our need to stay unaccountable and will increase the burden of the burden of our engagement with you, upon you. Your honesty causes you to simply accept blame both the place it doesn’t lie with you or in a higher proportion that for which you’re culpable.
Your honesty of dealings additionally prevents you typically of talking of the devaluing abuses exterior of your relationship with us. At first, which will appear a contradiction, however you’d really feel dishonest if you happen to spoke about them to others with out informing us first of your intention to take action. You, by this stage, have realized that it’s a safer plan of action to undergo in silence quite than converse out to us and in flip you’ll not converse of what’s occurring to others, not till the stress has change into too nice or extra doubtless upon getting been discarded by us.
The enduring love you expertise for us, or extra precisely, your dependancy as a consequence of our infecting you, implies that when these hoovers come put up escape or discard, you’re unable to shroud or disguise the way you actually really feel and as soon as extra you gentle up just like the brightest beacon. You sign to us that your love (dependancy) stays and thus there may be but extra gasoline to assemble and that you’re so prone to our machinations to tug you again into our grasp as soon as once more, be that to extract gasoline or to start the Formal Relationship as soon as once more.
We all know you’re trustworthy. It shines from you and we establish it from the way in which you conduct your self and what you say after we goal you on the outset. Not solely is the identification of this trait affirmation that you just possess one of many many traits that we search for, it additionally confirms that sure actions will succeed and sure responses will happen.
It’s typically acknowledged that honesty is the most effective coverage. It’s actually a coverage that we recommend. It’s an everlasting trait of the empath and one which we’ll corrupt to be able to management you and hold you managed.