From my Ebook – Greg Zaffuto – Creator – From Appeal to Hurt and The whole lot else in Between with a Narcissist!
Narcissists are “crazy-makers” they usually thrive on destructive and debilitating drama by the manipulation of actual info, lies, triangulating, backstabbing, betrayal, and so on. That is all to assist the crazy-maker’s agenda to divide and conquer, hurt and disable, and primarily destroy folks and conditions. That is their mechanism to divert actuality on a ‘one to at least one’ (private degree) and inside the very teams (organizations) of individuals they work together with. Wherever and at any time when they’re current most individuals should stroll on eggshells they usually really feel an impending sense of doom. Most EVERY state of affairs may be a part of their agenda to assist and create their drama. BUT they’re stealth operators and may camouflage their loopy making in a way that it by no means appears to originate from them as adversity. It’s a care or concern maybe and they’re simply mentioning this to maybe ‘assist out’ however is solely steered and pushed by the Narcissist as a harmful agenda to realize management over each state of affairs in life!
A crazy-maker is somebody who makes you are feeling loopy by continually stirring up hassle and inflicting a destructive consequence from their involvement and presence in any given state of affairs. ‘Regular’ doesn’t serve a Narcissist and their want for energy and management, however CHAOS and ‘loopy making’ does! They’re at all times the issue, however nothing is ever their fault.
They can’t sit down and expertise a traditional or actual second, a reminiscence, or a connection to actual happiness inside themselves or mirror about their life as a result of there are NONE, solely envy of what they’ll’t obtain. Their inside world is offended, darkish and lacks full empathy. They don’t have any inside mechanisms to like or care about anyone so as a substitute they feed their everlasting neediness and pathological nature by excessive manipulation. They create chaos and destruction with their abusive manners to make different’s really feel their vacancy as if to pay for his or her distress and disconnection from actual happiness and life. They imitate our actuality to attract us into their life after which into their private distress by abusing what they’ll’t ever obtain – our goodness and skill to like.
If they’ll efficiently hurt our good intentions and mock our empathy it permits them to disclaim their very own harmful nature and world by making us assume their distress and darkness. Distress loves firm as they are saying and a Narcissist must show to themselves that everybody else is the depressing and the harmful creature that they’re by delusional deception and destruction. They use us like a filter to diffuse their negativity and assume our goodness, empathy and love as their very own. They put on us like a disguise to stroll among the many good folks to continually discover increasingly provide to reap. And not using a masks (false) of actual empathy and love, their darkness would expose them and folks would keep away from each facet of their being! No or minimal contact at all times. Greg