10 years in the past on at the present time I started this weblog, “Realizing the Narcissist”.
The primary put up was titled “HGTudor : Who Am I?” and it actually ranked amongst my pithier postings for it acknowledged :-
“I’ve been given a label by these have been charged with treating me. I’m labelled a narcissist. A narc. That label is irrelevant. Why? As a result of I’m your husband, your mom, your sister, your boyfriend, your greatest pal, your boss, your neighbour and your favorite movie star. I’m all over the place. It’s essential to get up and realise this.”
Succinct and completely correct.
The primary remark got here from somebody utilizing the title “Stacey” and she or he requested “Is your therapy working?” Over 441 000 feedback later I’m nonetheless right here. Your feedback and questions proceed and I reply them.
Within the final ten years, tens of millions of individuals have accessed hundreds of free weblog articles and in so doing they’ve been enlightened, entertained, educated, enraged and freed. Nowhere else offers such readability, such element and such notion into the thoughts of the narcissist.
The typical age of a weblog is simply two years. Collectively we have now have smashed by that restrictive time interval and ensured that for these keen to search for it, the solutions can be found.
Many individuals have come and gone after which come once more to this place. I do know there are a few of you might have been with me from the very starting, from day one. A few of it’s possible you’ll not have been there from the blogs first day however you might have been there from the early phases. It’s possible you’ll not have all the time made your presence identified however I do know you might have continued to learn, each article and feedback, making certain that you simply not solely maintain your thoughts clear and making use of logic however with the intention to advocate this work to others as when the time arises. I’m not going to say the various names that are flooding by my thoughts as I write this, I don’t wish to miss out any of the names, however know this, you’re identified. These of you who’ve supported my work, advocated it elsewhere, consulted with me, used the detectors, beneficial the fabric, referred folks to me, posted your ideas and experiences and interacted with the various different readers of my work, you might have been integral within the success of this work.
By means of the tons of of hundreds of feedback we have now seen tales of distress, tales of confusion and proclamations of triumph. Darkish deeds have been aired and stable no contact regimens have been applied. We’ve seen the spats and fights between commenters, the unaware narcissists that every now and then hang-out these pages and you’ve got marvelled at those that have damaged freed from their narcissists and shared their salvation with you. There have been moments of despair, levity and lots of of success. We’ve witnessed some batshit fruit loops supply the slops of their delinquent minds as like that proverbial seagull, they’ve flown in, shat throughout after which been expelled. We’ve noticed recollections which I do know have moved one among you to tears.
That is the place it began. While my work has proliferated on Fb, X, Instagram and significantly YouTube, that is the place Realizing the Narcissist started and grew. It’s the place you discovered of my many books which furnished you with such glorious understanding. It’s the place you might have pored over the articles and nodded as you thought “sure, that’s what occurred to me” otherwise you shook your head on the terrifying accuracy of what you learn. This place has stirred your emotions, resurrected reminiscences however most of all of it it has supplied you would like a sanctuary the place you possibly can learn, perceive and specific.
I wish to thank all of these you who’ve learn my work right here and significantly these of you who’ve commented and contributed on this place, including to its brilliance. Realizing the Narcissist can’t exist by edifice article alone however have to be a residing assemble, charged with the ideas and emotions of its many readers. It’s by your contributions that others additionally be taught, the place others acquire validation and I additionally be taught extra about you, enabling me to decipher, clarify and information.
There are those who hate me, I perceive that. There are others who love me, I additionally perceive that. Some welcome me, others are cautious of me, others once more are grateful and a few want sure issues for me. These concepts, ideas and wishes have flowed by the pages of this weblog, electrifying it, bolstering it and lending it weight.
Many, many hours of labor goes into this weblog – from the articles which can be written, the movies which can be linked, the moderation of the feedback and the answering of the questions – the enter is appreciable. You should have benefitted from what you might have discovered right here and must you want to acknowledge the worth of my work and its affect on you in bringing you perceive and freedom you possibly can present that appreciation right here
It is a place which offers assist and perception like no different with a bedrock of sensible perception galvanised by the experiences of its readers. This led to the creation of the Angel Help Fund
which nonetheless has calls for positioned upon it by these in want of assist in Realizing the Narcissist, to allow them to perceive and acquire freedom. If you want to assist those that proceed to ask for assist, you may make a donation by clicking on the highlighted hyperlink.
My thanks prematurely to these of you displaying appreciation and donating.
On at the present time, the hoover triggers are actually firing as I recall so lots of you who’ve graced my pages, by studying and particularly although commenting. It’s possible you’ll not have commented for a while however I invite these of you who could not have been lively on the weblog for a while (and people of you who stay lively) to make your presence felt, even when it’s a temporary hey. It’s possible you’ll want to share your reminiscences of the weblog and what it has executed for you, sharing some recollections of the occasions you name from its wealthy historical past.
The excellent news is that Realizing the Narcissist stays and shall proceed. There may be extra work about to be launched, extra details about me, about narcissists, about empaths and the dynamic of these people. Far more to inform you in regards to the enigma that’s HG Tudor.
10 years. A milestone value elevating a drink to and posting a remark to.
Onward with data and perception.
Thanks.
HG Tudor thirty first August 2025