A viable and dealing definition of a Narcissist! Nar•cis•sist [nahr-suh-sist] – noun – con artist, life HACK, scammer, chameleon, form shifter, liar, extortionist, manipulator, nice pretender, thief, person, “Charms to Hurt,” abuser. PREDATOR after PREY! Harmful to ALL people it doesn’t matter what the connection!
From my Ebook: Greg Zaffuto – Writer – From Allure to Hurt and The whole lot Else in Between with a Narcissist
Beneath that skinny masks the Narcissist wears is the truth of their pathological self PLUS their WHOLE previous of victims/targets they’ve abused and an envy for all times that reveals of their raging mood that is sort of a volcano that may erupt at any given second. YES, they’re conscious of their actions as a result of they use lie after mislead cowl up their abuse. Like a baby that stole a chunk of sweet and lies about it to keep away from being punished – so does the Narcissist at a monumental degree. Keep in mind their previous is all the time following them and will they ever cease for a second it can meet up with them and utterly eat them as a result of they’re abusers which have broken many individuals’s lives – even their very own household in order that they attempt to extinguish the flames from that previous with MORE lies. When the going will get powerful the Narcissist will get going – so they’re off and working to new provide ALWAYS surrounding themselves with a protecting circle of latest targets/victims, MORE NEW LIES, in addition to a brand new and WONDEROUS life to shore up their disordered life AGAIN – and this equation ALWAYS contains the demise/destruction of the earlier supply of provide and the “believers” that help the delusional Narcissist! Thus, the cycle of abuse – they’re emotionally and psychologically abusive vagabonds all the time in search of the subsequent goal/sufferer.
The Narcissist is a human that isn’t totally functioning – and rapidly turns into very adept at “becoming in” with camouflage or “a masks” as it’s described clinically. Initially, the Narcissist will dimension up AND soak up as a lot if not of all the brand new goal’s habits and mimic it or mirror it again to them to SEEM like they’ve a lot in widespread with the sufferer – NO MATTER WHAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS. The Narcissist is VERY ADEPT AT THIS and can rigorously examine the goal’s interactions with others, in addition to their physique language, tone of voice, and normal demeanor. As an knowledgeable predator/hunter, the Narcissist will methodically craft a plan of assault and start to trace and assess their goal’s each thought. The Narcissist will slowly strategy the goal with complimentary phrases and statements after which the Narcissist will mannequin themselves and their behaviors to what he/she thinks will please and SNARE their new goal into their internet of deceit and destruction. The Narcissist will assume the habits of the goal’s “good accomplice”. The Narcissist is aware of what the goal wishes in a accomplice, buddy, or mate and morph’s proper into that position – the MOST PERFECT buddy, lover or once more regardless of the relationship could also be. That is an important facet within the Narcissist’s arsenal of instruments – GAINING TRUST of their goal quickly to be sufferer – that is the CHARM or love bombing. With out it the cycle of abuse and extortion will simply not occur, and the Narcissist is unable to safe their LIFE SUSTAINING provide, in order that they HEAVILY make investments on this tactic. Keep in mind with out it they CAN NOT get to their valuable supply of provide NOR can they survive with out it – so this mainly describes the reality of the state of affairs or that they’re PREDATORS AFTER PREY. Additionally keep in mind that they have to create their league of supporters or minions on the facet to guard them as effectively. A Narcissist’s true colours will all the time present that they’re abusive, in order that they want their help system to guard them as soon as they’re outed.
A Narcissist is so seductive that he/she makes you imagine in him/her along with your entire coronary heart, thoughts, and soul. Sadly for all who tread on this emotional rollercoaster with a Narcissist they don’t understand simply how harmful this reference to them is till it’s too late. The appeal a Narcissist makes use of creates an oblivious feeling of being related or very interested in most all the things about them. We will grow to be fascinated with somebody due to their bodily magnificence BUT a captivating and charming Narcissist doesn’t essentially need to have beauty to attract you in. Attractiveness can enhance the magnetic pull in direction of the Narcissist, however that isn’t on the core of this abuse, it’s the manufactured appeal that may be a psychologically damaging and a misleading device used to govern, situation, handle you down and management you.
They appeal individuals to demise (figuratively) and that is what actually attracts us to them or that CHARM. However with a Narcissist it’s that magnetism that makes you are feeling a form of hypnotizing attraction that manifests itself in your psyche and each degree of your soul and proper to your core beliefs! You might be being charmed by their shrewd potential of REFLECTING again all the things that’s YOU creating this intoxicating and deep-rooted bond. This intense connection is created when an individual provides you the sensation like you’ve recognized them a very long time, soul mates, otherwise you really feel very secure with them – maybe you’ve recognized them in a previous life or no matter fantasy perception that Narcissist has instilled in your thoughts. BUT they’ll suck the life out of you as soon as they discover a means in and THAT is why they CHARM us so closely to start with – once more, a lot in order that it’s intoxicating.
Narcissists work extraordinarily laborious at making themselves plausible because it issues their overt lies and myths about themselves. They arm themselves with an enormous array of realized info they’ve harvested by way of their observations of different people. They purchase after which put on, personalize, or improve this info as whether it is really theirs. So, what’s the aim once more with all of this? To snag you into his/her Narcissistic lair to make you provide them with the issues they want and can’t get as a result of they’re a darkish and manipulative character that envies life, love, and other people.
Keep in mind and utterly internalize this – there is no such thing as a marriage vow, relationship (even household), friendship, or connection to the care and love they proclaim they’ve for us. NOTHING prohibits a Narcissist from doing precisely what they need as a result of there are not any penalties they really feel internally and actually there may be NO RELATIONSHIP or bonding with them – simply an agenda to objectify ALL individuals. BUT additionally keep in mind this – YOU do possess empathy, YOU can love individuals, YOU can bond, YOU can have every kind of relationships, and YOU will recuperate from the hack in your life from this creature! YOU have been too robust for them and noticed by way of their façade as a result of YOU are superb! The miracle right here is that the Narcissist is out of your life irrespective of how painful it feels proper now – be robust! No/minimal contact ALWAYS! Greg