Something you say can and shall be used towards you by the Narcissist.
Everybody has a previous and throughout a wholesome courting scenario, it’s regular to share these previous experiences. A non poisonous particular person genuinely needs to get to know you and all you’ve overcome in your journey.
Most of us search to know our companions on a deep degree. We’re concerned about their ideas, desires, fears and vulnerabilities. This need is rooted in a elementary want for connection and closeness inside relationships. Understanding each other additionally enhances belief and emotional safety, creating the inspiration for a wholesome partnership.
A narcissist alternatively, needs to study the whole lot about you for sinister functions. It isn’t to bond over related previous tales and create connection. It is just to file away info to make use of as a weapon towards you later.
A sure narcissist I used to be in a relationship with very a lot loved consistently mentioning my previous relationships.
At first my guard was down one night time and I informed him lots of deep traumas I had suffered throughout my abusive relationship with a identified sociopath.
I believed this new man was attempting to get to know the true me however that wasn’t the case. He was simply one other narcissist gathering as a lot “dust” on me…